Reasonings

PART1:
(5.4.11)Every friendship and relationship anyone has ever been in is a relationship with one's self. Whether it be with the parts and attributes you like or do not like about yourself, or regarding the characteristics you struggle with, or are lacking entirely. Love is loving how someone else is making you happy, you are loving the solely for their assistance in loving yourself; you are hardly loving them, you are moreover loving you. I have watched so many relationships severely lacking communication altogether, things get messy when emotions and thoughts of importance are shared, even by just one party, sometimes even just once. It’s trying to believe in relationships when two people going about their connection and sharing of their loves in the healthiest way, remain in such dissimilar places mentally and emotionally, nearly two varied relationships completely. The realism of two people’s realities is how different those “truths” are; how opposing those points of views are that make up this flawed perception of middle ground. For example, say you cherish some detail about your significant other’s appearance or personality, I believe you either A. love yourself for loving this trait that either you embody, or you do not, or B. you hate yourself for appreciating an aspect of someone else that either describes yourself in someway, or a detail that you lack (often simply resentment/jealousy that this person has this thing that you, yourself desire) if A. you are in actuality loving a characteristic of yourself, does this not seem like a relationship with one's self. the other half becomes nearly extraneous, nothing more than a mirror, necessary in the subconscious need for reflection, but this person's only purpose, real purpose for themselves is their relationship with themselves. Most people do not want to see this friendship, relationship, romance as being so disconnected, their loved one only loving and romancing them; hardly romantic. If their defense I suppose a person could possibly suggest that it is important to them not just to make themselves happy, that would be selfish, even narcissistic, they could explain how very much they truly love this person, enough that they feel the want and even sometimes need to (selflessly) do or say things to make this person happy. These acts, they could say, even decrease or hinder their own happiness, and are specifically to make a person feel good because they deserve it. I would explain that in the succeeding in the increase in anyone's happiness and the knowledge of being the cause of that happiness is more a pat on your own back than anything; making someone happy normally makes you happy, and that end result is just that, the conscious or subconscious desired outcome or result. You by your girlfriend flowers, she is inevitably happy due to this act (it made her feel like she was worth that, loving herself a little more, confidence and love very interchangeable) and she loves you more you think, that brings you joy, even satisfaction, only with yourself. Practically giving yourself a bouquet, and adoring yourself more for that gift, the gift of self-love.


PART2:
(5.10.11)Was this all about self confidence; self assurance? Everything? No matter where I go lately it's as if I am an outsider observing actions and conversations, their sole purpose being to make a person with little self worth feel worthy. what happened to discussions of truth that broke you and made you question everything? Did people ever compliment and point out positive attributes and details of others because they just simply could not stand to not praise that person in that moment, to attempt to make that person happy? I once believed in selflessness because I had been so enamored with a person entirely, or something that they've done, or thought about, or had said to me, I assumed that I was no alone in that. But people adore in actuality how another can make them feel, just about themselves.