Babel

I cannot avoid the inescapable idea that I am proving my love, and loving another for the simple reason they deserve it. This automatically means that I do not wish to love and presumably see it as a sacrifice. But love is just another means of self harm and mutilation, and aren't they all some forms of self sacrifice? And isn't the source of sacrifice either love or hatred? For me this poses the even more relevant question which is why they are so interchangeably the same?